# It's all about the spoons baby!!
*This is touching on experiences that we spoke about in episode 2!*
We are so happy to share our audio space with the insightful **Leslie Blake Walker!**
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## Will you spoon me?
Join Leslie Blake Walker and I today where we discuss what the Spoon Theory is and how it can be so effective in pulling back the curtain and identifying why we behave the the way we do, how our own behavior is perceived by others, and what some healthy steps are to addressing and coming to peace with these realizations.
*This is touching on experiences that we spoke about in Episode 2!*
We are so happy to share our audio space with the insightful Leslie Blake Walker! As a fellow performer the experience of sharing space on stage and off it we find ourselves in very vulnerable spaces mentally emotionally. The spoon theory is based on a story of the affects our own actions and behavior and what we can and cannot give space too in a single moment
What do we have time for? We all find ourselves using that phrase constantly throughout our lives. We analyze what we can give space for mentally throughout our whole day. By taking into account what we can and cannot give space too is a way for us to communicate to others what we are able to handle personally. It is ok to not have enough, it might even be the healthiest choice to take into account your own personal room for what you can take on in that moment. Because we want to be our best and give the best of us to those whom we love and need us.
Giving away your spoons and taking spoons from others throughout your day is important. While it’s important to know our own capacity, be sure to take account our shared capacity in that moment. This time that we are all living through, is taking more from us than normal. More is being asked of us, required of us and expected of us. How can we make some sort of difference in our day? Take into account your spoons! Spoons can be anything; sleep, water, food, calling a friend, having a treat, watching your favorite show, listening to your favorite podcast ;)
We don’t have the same conversations with everyone in our lives, we share some conversations with certain people and some with others, but take into account what you’re really asking or needing from that person in that moment, be honest and real. Don’t beat around the bush, be real, be RAW and share your truth #ruth.
The worst part can be that we don’t even realize it! How we feel about one thing factors into many other relationships and actions in our entire life. When we don’t take the time to asses the real problem and how we are feeling then it pops up into other places of our life. But then it has already happened..and forgiveness can be really hard to give yourself.
One of the hardest thing about the spoon theory is that no one else owes you their spoons and you don’t owe other people your spoons. “I don’t have the time for you”. It can be hard to hear that form some people you really want to receive that from.
Aristotle shares many philosophical insights and in his eight book he describes something called the ideas of friendship. Utility, pleasure, and the perfect friendship.
The perfect friendship is the philosophical ideal that in order to be and attain this “perfection” in friendship, you only need to be and wish good on that individual.
We always worry about being there for others, and not having the time to be close to everyone in our lives. That is indeed ok. You can be the perfect friend just by showing someone you are there for them and will always be!